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"What is the difference between taking care of yourself first and being selfish?"
Let us first separate the 2 subjects.
Taking care of the Self means to take care of your inner and outer being selflessly, that is with whole heart, without reservations, without any confusions or doubts, and most of all without any guilt. When you take care of the Self, the result is a whole person, not a needy person, a confident person, and not one with doubts, a loving and caring person and not one with greed. When you are whole, there is no selfishness in you.
Now let's look at the subject of being selfish.
When you live only for yourself without consideration for others, no matter who it is, is considered being selfish.
Now let's combine these two subjects together.
A person who takes care of the Self, the inner and the outer being, is a whole person and not needy. A needy person cannot do justice when taking care of another. So when a person takes care of the Self first, becomes a whole person first, and then takes care of the other, there is only love and care flowing out of that person, which is the opposite of being selfish. A needy person taking care of another will be considered selfish, since he cannot be of service 100%!! A whole person is without expectations of a return, a whole person is not judgmental, a whole person is not selfish at all. :)
i guess in the real world we pendulate between being needy and self centered.Have yet to meet anyone whom i consider whole.
ReplyDeleteMeanwhile i try and my own level is to be sensitive first.So i try not to hurt anyone.
Being wthout expectations is something very very difficult i guess and that no matter how hard i try i keep expecting understanding and kindness in return.
But i try...
Thanks for ur post which reminds me that i do get selfish at times and also needy.
Miles to go...before i achieve equilibrium.:)