Dilemma for women

Dilemma for women

Over the years the more women I have talked to the more I have come to believe the dilemma faced by women in today’s world, more in some parts than another.

Just yesterday, I was talking to an acquaintance, a wonderful young woman of a young child. She looked tired. I commented, “You look tired.” She said that she has no time to take care of herself. She has to take care of her child in the morning and drop him off to daycare before she can herself get to work. Her husband works farther away and so cannot participate in this important part of the day. By the time the child is picked up, household chores are done, it is time for bed.

This dilemma is not unique; in fact it is very common.

What is wrong about this situation?

In my own experience in this country, where we have no outside support, we are preparing ourselves for failure, as one of these women who work, take care of home and family, and repeat the cycle again day after day…

Not too long ago, as a young woman with 2 children myself and no help or support, I remember how my days went by:

- Wake up early

- Get the children ready and drop them off to school

- Go to work

- Pickup the children from school and see to their needs (food, homework, activities etc.)

- Cook, clean (whether it is the home, laundry, the toilet or the yard…), grocery, bank, vehicle maintenance, doctor appointments, and the millions of other activities that have to be done in order to survive…

- Prepare for bed in a very tired state of being

- Wake up again and repeat the cycle

It was only about 3 years ago that it finally dawned on me that the situation was extremely faulty and that something needed to be done if I wanted to LIVE. When would I follow my dreams and passions apart from taking care of my family? …for in order to truly live, each and every one of us have to do something for our own selves; a critical fact women seem to forget.

Life is precious. Moments are precious. It is not all about earning money. Sometimes we have enough to survive happily, but the rat race never ends until we become consciously aware and take action.

After a while life becomes monotonous. Passions die in the struggle for survival. Life seems to just continue in a kind of unconscious way, feelings become numb, everything starts to weigh heavily on you…but there seems to be no escape…

It is unfortunate that such circumstances seem to get a relief with the break up of a family, if you dare to breathe.

Each and every one of us need to ask ourselves, “What can be done to get out of this rut and still have a happy, joyful family?”

· More support from members in the home?

· A true evaluation of the income coming in?

· A better education on money and finances so that we are smarter about money and it is not a rat race?

· A little compromise all around?

· Focus on what is important?

· More love and caring?

· Sharing of responsibilities?

· Spiritual awareness?

· Leaving the victim mentality?

It is critical that we sit down as a family and discuss things with a calm and rational mind, because each one of the family member is an important part of the equation. Each member needs to have compassion for the other. Then there is no way that life will not bloom and grow and expand…Then there is no way that each member will not be free in spirit…only then do you learn to LIVE J